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I’ve just found out that the brilliant and amazing Alice Miller died on April 14, 2010 at the age of 87. She was a psychotherapist, a prolific writer, and a devoted champion of children’s rights, working throughout her life to spread awareness of the effects of child abuse.

Here is a video message she put out a few years back:

and here is a link to her website:


51 year-old award winning MTV video director, Aswad Ayinde, has been charged with repeatedly raping and impregnating his daughters over decades and using extreme violence and threats to prevent them from telling the authorities.

Ayinde, who won an MTV award for directing The Fugees’ “Killing Me Softly,” fathered six kids with his daughters from the mid-1980s to 2002 – and delivered the babies himself, according to New Jersey prosecutors. Ayinde also had nine kids with his ex-wife, Beverly, and at least three more with two other women in Brooklyn.

Prosecutors said Ayinde kept the kids from informing the authorities by beating them with wooden boards or kicking them with steel-toed boots.

“I was afraid to ever accuse him of being demented or being a pedophile,” Beverly Ayinde, who married him in 1977, told the court. “I knew the word, but I wouldn’t dare use it because it would result in a beating.”

Ayinde also made a point of moving his family from town to town, even squatting in an abandoned funeral home in New Jersey. Later, he moved to Brooklyn and began passing himself off as an artist, brazenly boasting his now-grown daughters were his wives.


Here is some information about “paddling”, in schools, the traditional practice of punishing children for “infractions” by smacking them publicly on bare buttocks with a wooden implement until there are bruises. Some traditional educators and parents are quite attached to this practice and fight to keep it alive. Old habits really die hard. Consider this perspective about the development of sexual deviancy: Sowing the Seeds of Sadomasochism, By Jordan Riak, November 9, 2009.


Here’s Michael Jackson several years back speaking on how horribly and how painfully his father Joe Jackson abused him (along with the other Jackson children) as a child – severe beatings, whippings, tripping him and pushing him into walls, severe pervasive put-downs. Reading other interviews with family friends and other family members, including Joe’s admission to the whippings (which he has said he believes is good discipline), I suspect the admissions in this video are only the tip of the iceberg.